What does it really mean to submit to my husband? I didn't quite know until I went through Christian marriage counseling.
I am a bossy, assertive, know-it-all type of chick. In my mind, submission is a curse word! Immediately, I start getting hot and sweaty at the mere thought of giving up control to....a man! To submit goes against everything I have been programmed to do!
Many women especially alpha women can identify with the above-referenced anxiety. I won't take it to deep into religion but I want to explain the basis for how I am able to submit to my husband even though it is not my natural response.
Husbands are charged with loving their wives like Christ loved the church. Wives are to submit to their husbands because the church is under the authority of Christ. Don't take my word for it, this is Bible (Ephesians 5:22-33). Wives are judged based on submission. Husbands are judged based on headship. God has given men the position of leader in the household. Why? Cuz, He said so. Now, if you do not want to be "under" a man that's fine, don't get married!
The selection process is crucial. Your mate will find you but you still get to choose him as well. Does he know Jesus? This is really important! If your future husband can not hear from God for himself, how can he go to God on matters that concern you? He is supposed to be praying for guidance and direction not making decisions because he felt like it. You do not submit to a man until you are married!
Submission is a requirement for wives only! If you are not married you are not under any obligation to submit to a boyfriend or even a fiancé. You should ask yourself if you are with a man you would be able to submit to in the future. If your answer is no, ADIOS HOMBRE!
Submission doesn't mean you are to be seen and not heard.
Many people mistake submission for weakness when in fact it takes a tremendous amount of strength to show restraint especially when you KNOW your husband is DEAD WRONG! Being a wife is giving up the right to be "right." It doesn't mean you aren't right, it means you are not fighting your husband for bragging rights or the last word (I'm working on this).
Ultimately, learning to submit to your husband is true submission to God. If you believe that you are with the person God chose for you it should give you comfort to know God already knew the kind of man he needs to be for you to submit. I know. It's deep. We will definitely keep this conversation going.
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