It's something we men don't do well. It's not even an allowable conversation amongst groups of men. Our exterior is fortified and illustrious when we speak (or don't speak) about being vulnerable. What does it even mean anyway...
*Checks definition via google*
That definition, is the polar opposite of what a man is to feel or be (traditionally). Even after you've convinced yourself that you're totally free and unencumbered. At the end of that story you'll find that are as guarded as you ever were. I learned in premarital counseling (our 4th day together) that you have to reach the very depths of your emotional reservoir.
In past relationships, whenever I had the slightest inkling that there was a ceiling I no longer showed vulnerability. And, in my opinion, that's where the relationship ended. That was normal behavior and I don't recommend it.
I'm not giving advice AT ALL. I AM NOT experienced!!! But I see the benefits of leaving yourself totally naked for your spouse. Mikki and I have already had some moments that have attempted to shake our foundation and when they fail either one of releases a victorious mumble of "we in this" to an affirmed reply.
Get vulnerable brothers, and stay dope!
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